There are so many wonderful activities and sensations on the menu at the buffet of kink. My first taste of it was through a power exchange dynamic with my boss many years ago, very “The Secretary” except set in a hotel kitchen rather than an office. If he had asked me to crawl through the restaurant with our banquet orders in my teeth I would’ve done it in an instant.
Then there’s impact, and bondage, be it through rope, leather cuffs, duct tape, saran wrap, etc. The power exchange, whether I’m top, bottom, or struggling to see who ends up in which position, plus impact and bondage are foundational in my mind to a good scene.
Then we can ice the cake with funsies- I love the danger of a knife blade dragged across my skin, held against my throat, cutting off my panties. When I brat him and he growls in my ear, reaffirming his grip and his dominant position, I fucking melt. When I feel him steal my breath with his hand on my throat and my eyes roll back in my head. When he stops my brain from functioning with both fists gripping my hair. That Dom voice telling me to cum for him and I have no fucking choice but to let wave after wave of pleasure wash over my body, putty in his hands.
Wax play, fire play, temperature, tickling, pinching, sensory deprivation, teasing, edging, forced orgasm, throat fucking….the possibilities are endless.
But amongst these psychological and physical games we play, there is one that stands out against the din. One above all others and integral to my ability to truly engage in these activites at the level of depth I need in order to feel satisfied.
My #1 kink is connection.
Because without a mutual interest, respect, openness, investment, vulnerability, communication, effort, desire….the rest just falls flat.
This is precisely why I haven’t bottomed in 3 months, to my great dismay. So many people it seems want all the fun without the vulnerability of forging and maintaining the strong bond that allows for intense play and the transcendent states of euphoria caused by power exchange and pain. I need that in order to let go and give in, to reach my potential as a submissive.
I was explaining the economy of dating yesterday to a guy who keeps finding himself on the opposite side of this equation as myself. Dick is highly available and in relatively low demand. My free time and energy is in high demand but very scarce. The value of my time and attention is therefore much higher than the value of your dick. You’ve GOT to offer me something higher value than straight dick to secure my precious time and attention, it really is that simple.
Connection is my kink. Let’s start there.
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